Quote: The Best Thing is the Atmosphere

I think the best thing is the atmosphere that you provide. It is comfortable and easier to learn new things in a place like this.

-Erin Iverson, Pear Chaperon

GoalsDuring the first lesson of Social Arts 102, the students were asked to give feedback about the best part of taking 101. Ms. Iverson who acts as a Peer Chaperon for Social Arts Atlanta chose to participate in the activity and wrote the quote above. We are grateful for her compliment.

One of the goals of all of Social Arts Classes is to create an environment where students feel comfortable to learn, make mistakes, practice and improve without feeling judged or belittled. From the response we received from Ms. Iverson, we are reaching this goal.

Quote: Better Conversations

I remember noticing a difference in my conversations after the class…my general conversation has improved.

-Kiera McManus, SAA Student

conversationThis quote is from a student who attended Social Arts 101. She gave us great feedback about attending the class and is now part of our Social Arts 102 group. During the first session of 102, we asked that the students write responses to the following.

Tell us a story of how you used your 101 skills.

What was the best thing about 101 and what was missing?

What social skill would you like to improve during 102?

She let us know that she liked learning about making introductions and asked that we do more practice of dining skills. She requested that we make sure to work on conversation skills during 102. What is good about Ms. McManus’ responses is that she is looking forward to practicing more during 102 and improving on what she has already learned.

Quote: Promptness

Promptness is the cardinal rule when dialing with others; the person who is late for appointments or keeps people waiting for meetings, classes, or meals is an annoyance and is saying in essence, “I don’t care enough about you to be on time.”

– Sister Mary Mercedes

WatchThis daily courtesy is important and a challenge with most people’s schedules and Atlanta’s traffic. When you set appointments give yourself several extra minutes for travel. If you arrive early, take a breath and a moment to yourself. If you are a few minutes late for an appointment, apologize simply and directly. If you think you are going to be more that 15 minutes tardy, contact your appointment and offer to reschedule.

The original version of this book was first published around 1910. The edition sited for this quote was lovingly republished by graduates of the San Domenico School in San Anselmo in 2001. Several of the people involved in this effort had Sister Mercedes as a teacher.

Mercedes, Mary. A Book of Courtesy: The Art of Living with Yourself and Others. San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 2001. Print.

Quote: Two Languages

It take two…Languages that is: body and spoken.

-Cindy Post Senning & Peggy Post

SmileTrue, true, the Posts are, as always, right on the money. A “hello” without a smile could be worse than saying nothing at all. The language and the face do not match and so the receiver will be confused.

Senning, Cindy Post., and Peggy Post. Teen Manners: From Malls to Meals to Messaging and Beyond. New York: Collins, 2007. Print.

Quote: Don’t Make is Worse

If you do something you know is wrong, such as going where you don’t belong. Don’t make it worse by telling lies; Say you’re sorry and apologize.

Our French friend is correct. As with all mistakes and accidents, the quicker it is acknowledged, owned and apologized for the better. Eventually the truth comes out and a lie is almost always more regrettable than the original mistake or accident.

Marciano, John Bemelmans. Madeline Says Merci: The-Always-Be-Polite Book. New York: Penguin Putnam for Young Reagers, 2001. Print.

Quote: Principals of Etiquette

Manners, the ways that people apply the principles of etiquette, change over time and from culture to culture, but the principles do not.

-Cindy Post Senning, Ed.D. & Peggy Post
Manners and etiquette go hand in hand. Under all of it should be honesty, consideration and respect. The best thing to do in every social situation can be gotten to by being truthful, thinking of the other person’s needs and accepting him or her as they are.

Senning, Cindy Post., and Peggy Post. Teen Manners: From Malls to Meals to Messaging and Beyond. New York: Collins, 2007. Print.

Quote: Good Table Manners

Good table manners are a courtesy to the people at the table…This is how you show respect to your family and your friends.

-Junior Girls Scout Handbook, 1963

JuniorScoutTrue, true, unless you are going to be a hermit, you have to know that people do not want to see the food in your mouth or hear your processing of it. You want people to remember the food and your good company and not the distractions you may have caused. On the other hand, we all need to allow for a genuine mistake or accident. Being offended by these is more rude than putting a spoon on the wrong plate.

Junior Girl Scout Handbook. New York: Girl Scouts of the United States of America, 1963. 151. Print.