What is most important is that you use these tools to help yourself feel confident and relaxed.
-Elizabeth L. Post
The great-grand daughter-in-law of Emily Post has it right in this quote from a book about entertaining published in 1987. When approached from a place of generosity, social rules and customs, etiquette, are there to make us more successful.
Post, Elizabeth L. “Introduction.” Emily Post on Entertaining. New York: Harper Row, 1987. x. Print.